Transition update – 1 year on testosterone

I cannot believe that today I am 1 whole year on testosterone, its absolutely crazy!

I don’t really know what to write right now, but I felt like I needed to do a quick update.

So what’s changed? well I’m much hairier then I was lol, voice has changed a little bit, I sound more like my brother lol and my shoulders have look a bit different to me.  My chest has kinda deflated a bit, which is good and well there are some more intimate changes but I don’t feel comfortable at the moment talking/writing about that.

I’m really tired at the moment as I’ve been up since 6:30am and I’ve not slept well at all, so this blog post isn’t as good as I want it to be, as I’m not quite feeling connected with myself as I’m so tired.

I’m gonna try and write again soon.

1 year on T

^ Can’t believe I am 1 year on testosterone!

1yr on T comparrison

^ Comparison picture, pre T and 1 year on T

^ 1 year on T video

Peace out

Zak

Where does my inspiration come from?!

I’ve been thinking today that I haven’t had any inspiration to write for a while and it’s weird that some weeks I can write a lot but other times not at all.

I mean yeah there’s something I could have written about but it would have mainly been out of anger. I am still considering writing about it but I need to think about how best to frame it so it’s productive and helpful. I have a few ideas, but they need a bit more consideration first.

I have a half written blog that got interrupted with life and it’s something I want to finish but I can’t get back into the flow of it, so may start it again. As I don’t want the rest of it to feel forced so it may be better starting off fresh.

I don’t know where my inspiration comes from, it just kinda happens. Maybe I need to pay attention more to those moments.

I’ve felt a bit detached yesterday and today, so that’s maybe why I’ve had little inspiration to write.

I just feel really tired, I’ve eaten far too much, which is a bad habit. I either over eat or I don’t eat at all, I find it hard to get balance. I think I feel sluggish because I’ve eaten too much.

This post had no real direction, but it’s good to write to work stuff through.

I’m doing pretty well though, life is good, I’m continuing to work on myself and I’m reading a bit every day, which is all good.

I’m proud of how far I’ve come over the years and I’m far from prefect, whatever that is. But I’ll always be a work in progress and I’ll always strive to work through whatever life throws at me.

Peace out

Zak

A day in the life of a trans guy – gender dysphoria

previous post) it was also mentally exhausting.

On quite a few occasions throughout the day I had random guys call me love… which made me feel like shit.

I’ve been on testosterone for nearly a year now and still constantly get misgendered by strangers and even by people who don’t know me that well but know my name is Zak and still continue to call me by female pronouns.

I know a lot of it is because I’m short and don’t always bind my chest.

But I clearly still just look like a girl, which is really disappointing and frustrating.

It’s difficult to feel good about myself when people don’t see me as a guy.

I hope one day I look less feminine…

I knew this journey wasn’t going to be easy, but its harder then I thought and it’s exhausting.

I’m so exhausted at the moment cuz I had 5 hours sleep last night, so everything feels bigger then it probably is.

Peace out

Zak

Vasculitis sucks! – living with a chronic illness

Yesterday was so long and exhausting, not only did I have to go to Christchurch hospital but I also had to go to the chemist in Bournemouth hospital… but that’s a whole other story.

Yesterday I saw a vasculitis nurse because I’ve been having nosebleeds and I’ve had a chesty cough for a few weeks.

But this nurse wasn’t qualified to write a prescription and she wasn’t qualified to listen to my chest. It was all very frustrating because as my bloods, blood pressure and pee sample we’re all fine there wasn’t much she could do…

So she ended up calling in my Doctor to listen to my chest, which of course was clear. But he gave me a prescription for antibiotics as I have been coughing up green crap so that’s indicative of an infection, but I have no other real signs then that. He also is going to refer me to another ENT doctor as my current one is a jerk! Last time I saw him I was really ill but because my nose looked fine then I must be fine… so hopefully a new ENT doc will be more thorough.

The only good thing the nurse did notice with me is that I’m not steady on my feet and she asked me questions about my legs and I explained my knees bend back and both knees turn in and as a child I had my shoes built up by the hospital and had special in souls made as well, but I’ve had nothing as an adult other then physio on my legs. So she’s going to refer me to a physiotherapist, which is cool and a pediatrist to have a look at me, although I’m not sure in souls will fix this problem but we’ll see what happens. I’ve had problems since with my legs since I was born so I’m not sure how much these appointments will help, but I can only go and see.

After I got my prescription they said I needed to go to the boots in Bournemouth, so I assumed they meant in town, but what they didn’t say was they meant Bournemouth hospital.

I got to the boots in town and they said I needed to go to Bournemouth hospital. I was so angry because by that point I’d been up since 6 am, out since 7:45 am and it was now midday and I was absolutely exhausted and in so much pain with my joints.

I had to wait for half an hour for the bus and when I got to the hospital I was waiting for about 25 mins for my meds.

I didn’t have to wait too long for the bus back but that took an hour. M

I slept for a bit when I got in, which was much needed.

I’m hoping the antibiotics work and my chest feels better and hopefully these nose bleeds will stop.

On top of all that my gender dysphoria was bad but I’ll leave that for another blog.

Peace out

Zak

Today sucked

Today sucked!

I hate how sometimes a little change can cause such an extreme emotional reaction in me, it’s like I have no control over it and it just ruins the whole day.

Rather then just accept the situation as it is, my brain just over reacts and ruins the whole day and makes me feel like shit.

Then the negative thought cycle appears and it’s really hard to make it go away or to change it. It’s exhausting constantly fighting against yourself.

I’ve tried to get myself out of how I feel but hasn’t worked just yet. Although right now I feel more sad and lonely then anything else.

Earlier I was really fucking angry. That’s mostly gone now and just left with a low mood.

It hasn’t been helped by the fact I’ve been pretty isolated this week. I saw a couple of friends last night for a few hours which was lovely. But they’re the only people I’ve seen since Sunday.

I like my alone time but not 4 days in a row. Two, three days tops is enough alone time for me, then I start to need a bit of real life human interaction.

But like today plans get fucked up. To be fair though I’ve fucked up a lot this week cuz I keep messing up dates, forgetting shit… so been causing lots of issues.

It’s really frustrating and right now I feel like I can’t do anything right so why bother at all, cuz I’m just getting everything wrong and messing everything up.

My mood is all over the place this week, I either feel ok or I feel really low. It’s probably because my testosterone shot is due next week. I hate feeling these extreme emotions.

Most of the time I handle them pretty well I think but just sometimes everything just bubbles over and goes crazy and I get over the top reactions to stuff. I hate it so much, makes me feel like such a dick that some days I just can’t handle stupid little things. Makes me so angry at myself.

Right now all I want to do is hide away forever, have a cuddle, a good cry and a good nights sleep. But that’s not gonna happen, so just sitting outside with the dogs, in hopes I can stop myself from feeling like such a loser! Hasn’t helped yet, but I have tried to feel better. Some days are just easier then others.

Today Negative thoughts 1 – Zak 0

Peace out

Zak